On a boring Sunday morning, my friend and I have this conversation.
Friend: uy may kwekwento ako sayo, bigyan mo ako ng advice
Me: sige try natin, hehehe
Friend: cge I have this friend, hindi ko sasabihin ung name kasi kilala mo to for sure hehe
Me: leche, sabihin na ang name
Friend: ah kilala mu si (insert guy name here)
Me: ah, jowa ni (insert guy's boyfriend name here), tama?
Me: what about
Friend: aun, friend ko siya sa FB matagan na 2010 pa ata. tapos this year aun nag kaka chat kami, nag kuhaan ng number, eh taga paranaque lang un, we decided to meet
Me: when was this? don't tell me it's recently hahahaha
Friend: uhmmm, February ata or march. wala naman nangyari, friends lang, naging close kami
Me: u know na he is in a relationship?
Friend: yup I know naman
Me: mamaya na answers to my question, tuloy ang kwento, sorry
Friend: pero alam mu ung tipong parang dati, ganun, may tawagan kami tapos sweet kami sa isa't isa pero napag kasunduan namin na friends lang kami. nadala ko na nga siya sa bahay eh.
Me: hahaha, then what bothers you?
Friend: wala lang feeling ko kasi nag bago na siya eh, biglaan na lang
Me: okay, first thing, what are your expectations? i guess i will be fine if i will be blunt/rude, right? Some pieces of advice will work that way
Friend: I'm not expecting naman na magiging kami
Me: i will ask the question again, what are your expectations?
Friend: na hindi siya mag babago
Me: let me understand this pretty well first base on your answers. parang coaching session lang sa QA, haha. so you are expecting na you will remain as close friends, with terms of endearments and all, though you know na he has a boyfriend? YES or NO?
Me: hmm, do you think its okay for someone to have terms of endearment with someone though he has a boyfriend?
Friend: ung terms of endearment namin naman eh hindi pang syota. pang friends lang
Me: i don't need your explanation, do you think it's okay to have terms of endearments with someone else though you know na you have a boyfriend? kasi people will not look at it that way
Me: okay... we will think of the possibilities now. first, his bf found out? next, he doesn't want the friendship to intensify because both of you know that it may lead to something else? TRUE or FALSE? :D
Friend: true. so kaya siya nag bago kasi baka malaman ng bf niya at alam niya kung anu ang kahahantungan ng ginagawa namin
Me: probably. ang problem lang dito friend, he has someone else. unfortunately, you just have your friends. :D
Friend: hmmmm...well. hahah wala ako masabi
Me: hmm, masakit mang isipin, minsan ganun lang talaga. :D yeah, the truth may leave you speechless
Friend: honestly, na kwento na siya ng bf niya kung sino daw ba ako. hindi naman nagalit ung bf niya. sabi niya friends
Me: pero siyempre bf pa din un. ikaw friend ka lang... :D
Friend: hehehe alam ko naman un
Me: so wag ka ng mag emote jan. he will be back, just give it time.
As I re-read this conversation, I am really not sure if what I told my friend is correct. How many friends zone have I encounter? I cannot remember. It happens to me the same way it happens to everyone else, and now, that I have to give an advice to someone experiencing it, the scenario remains a puzzle that will always be difficult to put together.