I anticipated that I will be using the alternate question for this day. Here it goes.
Your daughter tells you she is bringing home her boyfriend for dinner. When they arrive, she introduces you to a man who is not your same race. Sometime during dinner she announces that they have been married for the last six months. What bothers you more? The difference in race or being excluded from the wedding…
My mom, my siblings and the rest of my Mom’s extended family.
We are a typical Filipino family. My grandmother has 12 children and all of them are close. Like they really back each other up whenever something went wrong with someone. I think this is a normal trait to us Filipinos and I am really proud of it. It is also something that they taught all of their children, and right now, all of us are close. All 45 of us, you got it right, my grandmother’s grandchild is 45. Haha!
Everything has to be a collective effort. If someone got married, a family will sponsor the dress, someone will spend for the invitations, if a family does not have money, he helps out with the preparations. A nephew will celebrate his birthday and the same thing happen, someone will spend for the cake, the ice cream, someone will buy the ingredients for the spaghetti that my mom will cook, and someone will be a clown to entertain the kids (ehem!).
I remember when I graduated. Since me and my mom were struggling financially, I opted to just have a simple lunch with my family however my relatives didn’t allow that. After the ceremonies, my cousin picked us at our house in Cavite and drove us back to Sariaya where a feast was already prepared. It was the best graduation party ever!
Which is why I love my family so much, including my extended family. Our parents taught us that though we rarely see each other and we don’t know what was happening in our lives, no matter what happened, we have to make sure that we support each other. We all learn to watch each other’s back.
Before this post bore you, I will go back to the question. Since weddings are important to us, if this happen, I will already anticipate a chaos. I know that some feelings will be hurt but definitely we will still go back to the things that we learned from our grandparents. If ever this happen, I know what my relatives will do. Though they were already married and having a great time, I am sure, my family will prepare another wedding for them.
And whether my daughter likes it or not, she will wear another white dress, walk on our old church’s altar, and have the best wedding reception of her life. With me and close to 100 people that will definitely support and be happy for her.